Confidence Is Not Competence (And Florida Just Gave Us a Case Study) š„¶A cold snap, a Facebook meltdown, and a reminder that confidence isnāt competence. Florida got cold this week. Not Midwest cold. Not āsnowblowerā cold. But cold enough for a state built around heat, air conditioning, and flip-flops to feel it. Temperatures dipped into the 30s and even the
The Things Toddlers Say and the Quiet Pause That Follows šOn small inputs, big meaning, and parenting without a script Iāve written a lot about systems thinking, usually in the context of marriage or work, but parenting keeps finding new ways to test the theory. Haisley was playing ABCmouse on her iPad, clicking through one of the early levels
Writing in the Margins of a Full Life (Feat. a Toddler Who Refuses to Sleep in Her Own Bed) It is the middle of the night. The house is dark. My phone screen is doing that soft, judgmental glow it only does at 3:14 a.m. Everyone else is asleep. Everyoneā¦ except me. This is not because I am inspired. This is because my toddler has decided that
Systems Thinkers Come in More Than One Flavor š”(Or: How I Realized at Almost 42 Years Old That I Was Raised Inside a System) Iāve written before about systems thinking, mostly through the lens of how it shows up in my marriage. What I didnāt realize at the time is that I hadnāt traced that
Boston. š§A professional obligation, an unavoidable return. I am currently en route to Boston for a 24 hour business trip. Yes, you read that correctly: twenty-four hours. Door to door. In, out, no survivors. On the agenda: one client dinner and a four hour presentation to the CMO of a
Why I Stopped Trying to Convert Him šæOn planning, presence, and the limits of being āon top of things.ā Shared lives donāt require shared operating systems. They require trust. In a previous piece, I wrote about why my husband doesnāt think in systems and why thatās a good thing. This is the part I
Why Work Travel Is Never as Glamorous as It Sounds āļøA realistic accounting of early alarms, hotel chairs, and carry-ons. Work travel sounds impressive in theory. It implies momentum. Importance. A calendar full enough to justify a 5:15 a.m. alarm and a gate assignment that changes twice before boarding. There is a certain prestige baked into the
family On Receiving an Invitation (and What it Did Not Contain) My daughter received her first birthday party invitation in December. I didnāt realize until weeks later that there was no way to respond.
marriage systems My Husband Doesnāt Think in Systems. Hereās Why Thatās a Good Thing. š¤ŖOn marriage, mental load, and why two systems-brained people would probably need a divorce lawyer. In a recent post, I said āmore on that laterā when talking about how my brain works differently than my husbandās. This is the later. Thinking in systems often looks like naturally creating
life systems Meanwhile, This Weekend No lessons learned. No big reveal. Just a few days as they actually happened, because life doesnāt pause between the bigger moments.
travel systems š®š¹ Our Italy Itinerary š§³A real, used, systems-brained travel itinerary built to reduce decision fatigue, survive chaos, and make room for enjoyment. Note: This itinerary reflects a completed trip. Personal booking references and sensitive details have been intentionally omitted. Italy 2025Italy 2025.pdf649 KBdownload-circle
life systems I Thought I Was Bad at Everyday Life. Turns Out I Just Think in Systems. š§ On groceries, anxiety, and finally understanding how my brain actually works. Before we start, a quick note. Yes, I just launched this blog. Yes, Iāve been posting frequently. There are a few reasons for that. Itās new. Itās exciting. Itās the start of a new year,
starting On Doing This Anyway. š¦øāāļøBandwidth, timing, and starting before you're ready. It's 12:30pm on December 31, 2025. Most people are mentally checked out. Year wrapped. Inbox quiet. One foot already in next week. Iām sitting here finally doing the thing people have been telling me to do for
essay Meanwhile, š§©An honest place for the parts that donāt make the highlight reel. Iāve spent most of my life earning things the long way. Being the underdog. Busting my ass. Figuring it out as I went, because there wasnāt another option. What people usually see is the outcome.
life systems January 1. šļøOn Starting the Year as You Are I donāt have resolutions this year. I have a short list of things Iām no longer pretending are temporary. Thereās no clean slate here. Just the same life I had yesterday, plus the awareness that waiting for āafter things settle
